Can We Make Dog Training S.A.F.E.? Secure Attachment Family Education

By "misses you" I mean they notice Keep reading this article to get to the quiz on whether your training or activities encourage secure attachment.

We 'dog people' love our dogs, in ways that people who aren't bonded to dogs just don't understand. We have formed a special kind of connection, what scientists call an attachment relationship.

It's not just a preference to attach. We're literally biologically linked to our attachment figures. Our heart rates and breathing sync up, and if the relationship is secure, even imagining the attachment figure increases heart rate variability, meaning our mammalian nervous system is better able to respond to stress (Bryant & Hutanamon, 2018).  Life is less scary, less painful, and more interesting with healthy attachments.

Attachment includes proximity seeking, which is one explanation for why my dog, Joey, just brought his toy to chew on my leg.

We can make life better for our dogs by paying attention to their experience of attachment relationships. To that end, I've developed a framework to systematically apply attachment theory to canine learning, which I call Secure Attachment Family Education (S.A.F.E.). This is big stuff and I hope you'll read it through!

"Intimate attachments to other human beings are the hub around which a person's life revolves," wrote John Bowlby, father of attachment theory (1980, p. 422). His seminal work on attachment theory was written in 1951, based not on psychology, but ethology. Bowlby defined attachment as a safety regulation system via behavior targeted at specific individuals. "It is suggested that attachment is not only related to the behavioral control system for avoiding the danger of predation, but is also closely related to the feedback system of the neuroendocrinological system" (Nagasawa, Mogi, & Kikusui, 2009).

Over 70 years and mountains of research later, I think it's high time start deliberately taking attachment theory into account in the way we live with dogs.

Why? Because the ways that we train and live with dogs can accidentally activate the dog's 'attachment system' (and our own) and leading to a whole bunch of unwanted behavior.

The what?

I'll give an example. Let's say your partner is flying from New York to Seattle with a connecting flight somewhere in the middle of the country. As you're driving to lunch, you hear on the news that a plane from Chicago to Seattle crashed at take-off, and you suddenly panic, because you think your partner may have been on that flight.

You grab your phone to look up their itinerary, not even taking the time to pull over because you must know NOW. Nothing else matters in that moment except reconnecting with your loved one.

That metaphorical lightning bolt that kicked logic and personal safety to the side is your attachment system activating. As infants, when we were separated from our attachment figures, we pretty much all displayed characteristic distress vocalizations, such as crying, to bring our parents back and return to safety.

Dogs do that, too. I remember one time I was hiking in the woods and from a mile away, I heard the loud cries of a 7-week old puppy who had wandered a away from her mother. As adult humans, an activated attachment system causes us to do all sorts of amazing and ridiculous things to save the connection between us and our attachment figures. We see protest behavior in dogs when there's a rupture in or threat to their attachment relationships, too.

Attachment is a relationship between two individuals that isn't just important, it's fundamental. Attachment is strong, enduring emotional connection that elicits grief when it's severed, like when we lose our dogs or even when we go to work without them. Attachment relationships promote a sense of security and safety, beyond simple familiarity (Thompson, 2021, p. 21).

Research shows that attachment is a biological imperative; human infants naturally form attachments to their caregivers, and the only exception found so far is when there's no consistent caregiver, for example in a group of orphans in Romania (Zeanah, Smyke, Koga, Carlson & Bucharest Early Intervention Project Core Group, 2005).

When an infant is "securely" attached to the caregiver, they're secure in the relationship. In an infant-caregiver relationship, the caregiver is a safe haven, a secure base, and the baby seeks proximity to the caregiver. In particular, they are confident in the caregiver's responsiveness and availability, because of a "history of attuned, sensitive responsiveness from the caregiver to the infant" (Thompson, Simpson, Berlin, 2021). When we grow up, we continue to form attachment relationships with friends, partners, children, and even animals (Kurdek, 2008; Nagasawa, Mogi, & Kikusui, 2009) and those can also be secure or insecure.

Humans develop different attachment orientations as an individual characteristic, also called attachment styles. Each of us has learned a go-to way of forming attachment relationships, and our attachment orientation is stable. About 68-75% of the population has the same attachment style they developed in childhood (Fonagy, Bateman,  Lorenzini, & Campbell, 2014), although a person's attachment style can change over time with therapy, catastrophic events, healthy experiences, etc. Mine did, for the better. More on that later.

There are various research labels, but the main idea is that about 40% of people have a secure attachment style that meets needs for safety, belonging, and autonomy, and 60% have developed various flavors of insecure attachment, largely as a response to their environment.

In case you need a musical break from all of my words, here's a lovely song by The Feelings Parade, written in the voice of a woman with an anxious attachment style. It's an excellent description of an activated attachment system.

People who have the secure attachment style are not afraid to love and be loved. They can trust people and share emotions because they've learned that is safe and nourishing. They trust their own judgement. If there's a rupture in the relationship, it still hurts, but then it's bravely repaired. Cycles of accidental rupture and empathetic repair actually make the relationship stronger.

In a secure attachment relationship, the attachment figure is a secure base for exploration, a safe haven from danger, and there's proximity seeking (they like to be together). In adult relationships, both parties are attachment figures to the other; they return to each other for protection in times of danger, they are comfortable with the other's need for solitude and individual expression, and they enjoy time together.

Secure relationships help us be our best selves. That's the sort of thing I want us to be looking at for dogs, too. Are our interactions and training techniques promoting a secure attachment or damaging the attachment relationship? More on that later.

One set of labels for insecure attachment (in humans) is anxious, avoidant, and disorganized (fearful-avoidant). The key feature is that an insecure attachment system gets more easily activated, and the strategies one uses to calm it down tend to be more destructive than in a secure attachment relationship. For example, anxious attachment is characterized by needing extra reassurance that the attachment figure is attuned and available ("don't leave me!"). With avoidant attachment, one is triggered by the attachment figure not allowing enough solitude and individual exploration ("don't smother me!") Disorganized is like a blend of the two.

From a behaviorism lens, one can see these as response classes, general ways of dealing with a potentially unsafe situation, based on learning history. Dog training is steeped in learning theory, but the good news is that both are evidence based, and learning theory combines well with attachment theory. Bosmans, et al. (2022) recently proposed a new learning theory of Attachment to blend the two. They looked at successful sensitive parenting interventions based on attachment theory from the perspective of learning theory. Combining those lenses makes it possible to make changes to the interventions to make them more effective, and sheds light on the acquisition of fear and safety signals.

Combining lenses what I’m proposing we do with our dog behavior interventions, but from the other direction – keeping our well-honed awareness of learning theory, but also grounding our work in attachment theory, so that we don’t just teach dogs how to behave, we help them thrive in community.

A person with a secure attachment orientation can accurately read behavior that indicates a need for reassurance or more space without taking it personally. That’s a giant piece of the work we do with dogs.

Though dogs don't have the words to create stories around attachment, they do show behavioral and endocrinological responses (like oxytocin release when looking at caregivers) that are similar to the various attachment styles. (Nagasawa, Kikusui, Ohta, 2009, for example). It occurs to me that almost all dogs are orphans. Being taken from their canine and human families early on has got to have an effect on their attachment styles. I would love to see studies on the attachment styles of dogs who were raised in intact, multi-generation canine families in people's homes or as village dogs (not in a laboratory!). How common is secure attachment, for dogs, and what does that really look like?

What I do see is that most dog training techniques don’t take attachment into account, although there’s been a shift in the last decade or so. Can you see how some dog training and behavior modification techniques would help dogs have secure attachment relationships with their caregivers and others could make them more insecurely attached? It helps to learn your own attachment style, so you can know how that's informing the way you treat your dog and the other significant beings in your life.

With humans, experiencing secure attachment relationships and learning how to respond to attachment system behavior can change the attachment style over time. As Bowlby wrote, "corrective attachment experiences may compensate for early adversity" (Bowlby, 1988). For example, adoption to parents with a secure attachment orientation before the first year of a child's life seems to prevent significant damage to the attachment system, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) can change adult attachment styles when the client has a secure attachment relationship with their therapist (Badihi & Mousavi, 2016; Johnson & Best, 2003; Johnson & Whiffen, 1999).

I propose that we (as individuals and as an industry) focus on interventions that improve attachment security for dogs. In behaviorism terms, that changes the antecedent of relationship attachment, so dogs have a baseline experience of security, which could make it so much easier for dogs to thrive in human families. Much of the behavior that people work so hard to change or suppress seems to me to actually be protest behavior from an activated attachment system.

This isn't a huge stretch. I think it's the next logical step. BAT and several other canine education approaches like ACE, L.E.G.S., and C.A.K.E. have been developed in the modern era that focus heavily on relationship and the experience of the dog. I know I've been mentioning attachment theory here and there, and I imagine others have, too, but it's time to formally operationalize it in the industry. I think the attachment theory research ties the modern shift toward canine mental health together. The S.A.F.E. framework gives us a new criterion by which we can evaluate any technique or activity with dogs (and other species that bonds with humans).

There's been a lot of research showing that humans form attachment relationships with dogs and we've known for a few decades that dogs do form attachment bonds with humans. Recently, there's been a small amount of research showing that dogs also have attachment styles, for example Sipple et. al found primarily infant-caregiver attachment styles between dogs and humans and sibling attachment styles to each other, although that varied (Sipple, Thielke, L., Smith, Vitale, & Udell, 2021) and D’Aniello, et. al found features of attachment that were more not found in infant-caregiver relationships (D’Aniello, Scandurra, Pinelli, Marinelli, & Mongillo, 2022).

Sipple et. al concluded, "Dog–human attachment may play a distinct and important role in the success and resilience of adult dogs living in at least some anthropogenic environments. Bonds formed with other adult dogs, while important, likely serve a different function."

My main goal for the dog behavior field is that we deliberately focus on techniques that create what John Bowlby (1958) coined the Secure Base Effect and that we use it as a criteria for evaluating whether or not a technique or interaction the most humane option.

"Quality of attachment is typically evaluateprd based on the presence or absence of the Secure Base Effect (SBE), first described by ethologist John Bowlby (Bowlby 1958). The SBE is observed when an individual displays a contact-exploration balance in the presence of their attachment figure. In other words, in addition to seeking caregiver proximity, individuals exhibiting the SBE are also more likely to investigate novel environments and unfamiliar situations while periodically “checking in” with the attachment figure (Bowlby 1958). In this context, the attachment figure serves as a source of security and stress reduction that promotes individual growth and learning about the environment" (Sipple, et al., 2021)

That's pretty much exactly the work I've been doing with BAT for over a decade, having the human be a source of security and stress reduction, helping the dog learn about their environment and become their best self. However, the  S.A.F.E. framework will help me steer BAT more accurately, with secure attachment as my North Star. I hope S.A.F.E. does the same for other dog education techniques, too.

5 Pillars of Secure Attachment (adapted from the 5 Pillars for adult human attachments by Brown & Elliott, 2016)

  • FELT SAFETY (consistency, reliability, and protection - If your dog had words, they'd say, “I am safe. My human helps keep me safe.”)
  • ATTUNEMENT (being seen and known - watching your dog for small signals that indicate their inner state. "My human is paying attention to my needs and I can express myself.")
  • FELT COMFORT (soothe when distressed. "I know what comfort feels like," and eventually "I can find comfort myself.")
  • BEING VALUED (expressed delight "I belong, my people are glad I'm here and they enjoy my company.")
  • SUPPORT to explore (Consistent, reliable, unconditional support and encouragement for exploration. "I can follow my interests (to a point) and do what I like to do as long [as it doesn't conflict with my human's needs].")
Take the quiz at the end of this article.

If you're in the 40% of folks who have the secure attachment style, the list above may come relatively easily for you to provide for your dog.

Adults with secure attachment are comfortable both giving and receiving love in the ways listed above; in secure attachment partnerships, both people care for each other.

Side Note: Dogs are not full partners, because they aren't aware of all of the safety risks and social faux pas that we are. We can't rely on them to meet our need for attunement and consideration in ways that a human partner can, for example, because they have a different culture and sense of safety. But they're also not children; dogs are attuned than children and they do watch for our safety, in their way. The child-caregiver attachment model isn't quite a fit, and the sibling model isn't, either. It's obvious, but important to say: dogs are adults of another species, and we form a unique kind of attachment bond with them.

For the 40% of people who have developed a secure attachment style, the human version of the 5 Pillars are present in their adult human attachment relationships. Adults with secure attachment are comfortable both giving and receiving love in the ways listed above; in secure attachment partnerships, both people care for each other. The concepts of felt safety, attunement, felt comfort, being valued,  and support for being one's best self may also come relatively easily for them when interacting with dogs, unless they've been taught to do otherwise through a dog training program.

For the 60% of people who have developed an insecure attachment style, giving or receiving love may come harder with humans, but it still may be more possible with dogs, and it seems to be an excellent place to start practicing the interaction skills that come naturally to a securely attached person. Attachment styles can change over a lifetime. Like most things, it’s a blend of nature and nurture (Erkoreka, et al., 2021). The five pillars above are possible and healthy, and we can help dogs experience them.

By observing how essential secure attachment is for dogs, watching for the effects of one’s actions, and deliberately choosing ways to interact that foster secure attachment, we don’t just benefit the dogs. I believe that if we take a secure attachment approach to canine education, humans can help their dogs and hone their skills for other types of relationships at the same time.

Let’s take a look at what that would mean, specifically.

Can you help your dog feel safe by providing experiences in which they are safe and protect them when they need it? Can you you help them feel seen and known?

Attune to your dog's behavior to see what they might need, and help them learn how to get their needs met in a way that doesn't conflict with you meeting yours. Learn to look for and respond to small bids for contact from your dog, or signs of discomfort. Most 'behavior problems' are really just a mismatch of the dog trying to meet their need in a way that doesn't work for their family.

Learn about body language so you can recognize their fear and remain calm, present, and reassuring, or recognize their pain and help them feel more comfortable. Delight in your dog's presence and behavior by using positive reinforcement and happy body language. If they're jumping up for attention, for example, find a way to get them to do something else that you can give happy attention for, instead. Finally, consistently support your dog's exploration and enable enriching experiences.

I propose that the dog training and behavior industry evaluate interventions through the lens of Secure Attachment Family Education (S.A.F.E.), applying attachment theory to dog behavior. S.A.F.E. adds a dimension that LIMA (Least Intrusive, Minimally Aversive) doesn't quite capture. It's more like Least Intrusive, Maximally Advantageous (to all).

The following questions are a way to decide whether a dog training or behavior modification technique is attachment theory informed, i.e., whether it will promote or hinder secure attachment in the dogs in our care.

S.A.F.E. Dog Interactions: Take the Quiz!

  1. Does the dog consistently feel safe or are they put into situations where they seem afraid, especially ones in which the caregiver doesn't protect them? Is the caregiver always safe or sometimes dangerous?
  2. Does the dog have a way to express their needs and interests in a way that the caregiver understands? Does the caregiver make it clear that they understand the dog's needs (even if it's not always possible to meet them) or are dog's expression of needs ignored or punished?
  3. Does the caregiver consistently, effectively connect and soothe the dog when needed, or is the dog ignored, threatened, or distracted when they cannot cope with distress?
  4. Do the human and dog delight in each other (play together, positive reinforcement, massage, etc.) or is emotion absent or negative?
  5. Does the caregiver promote curiosity and provide unconditional support and opportunities to learn from the environment or is that behavior suppressed in favor of directing attention to the handler?

The questions in bold should be a YES. If the technique you just answered the quiz about didn't get 100%, what could you change about it to make it a S.A.F.E. technique?

The S.A.F.E. questions can be applied to any technique or activity with our dogs. By asking them, we shift what we do to make our dogs see the world through a more secure lens.

Let's look at my BAT 2.0 technique, for example. I developed BAT 1.0 when my own attachment style was still fearful-avoidant, at the beginning of shifting toward more secure, and it showed in the technique. Through various therapeutic and life experiences, I've learned to embrace attachment and I'm now generally secure.

Through the lens of S.A.F.E., I can see where I can make small changes to BAT that foster more secure relationships between dogs and their people. BAT already ticked all of the boxes for being a secure base for exploration and learning to read what the dog needs. I've always mentioned that people should connect with their dog if they check in during a BAT set-up (proximity seeking), but now I recommend making even more deliberate connection throughout the day, via play and other activities, like stretch-bowing when you see each other.

However, in the past, I think I didn't emphasize enough about being a safe haven (offering reassurance) and that's something that I've been doing more with dogs (and the people in my life) of over the last few years, as my own attachment security developed. I now teach the humans to create safety signals for themselves (Glimmers) in my leash walking course, so that they can become calm and help dogs co-regulate stress.

I encourage people to feel free to step in and connect with thei dog who needs reassurance, but otherwise, simply be available and keep their own nervous system calm. Part of Felt Comfort is that dogs learn to know what comfort feels like and learn to seek that internal state. If a caregiver has an anxious attachment style, they might overly relish being their dog’s source of comfort, versus allowing the dog to gather enough information to learn that they are actually safe. Give dogs the chance to realize they are safe, rather than over-protecting and limiting the dog’s experience. Read body language and learn what actually helps the dog feel better.

If your dog is stressed, remember you're there to soothe the dog, and not yourself. For example, your dog may just need eye contact or you kneeling down and breathing calmly, a soft reminder that you're there, rather than being scooped up or called out of the situation entirely. Have faith in your dog's ability to learn from the situation if they know you're there to keep them safe.

Alternatively, your dog may need more intense help, like body blocking an incoming puppy, talking calmly and interacting happily with a human visitor to your home to demonstrate safe familiarity, or for you to have a parent call their child away.

It's better to just feel safe, full stop, than to need protection. Don't abandon the dog to work things out alone. Instead, you can consistently, subtly, reassure the dog that they are safe, and then get out of the way, in order to encourage curiosity. That support for exploration something we do a lot in BAT. Use the smallest intervention that will work, to empower the dog's agency and still protect them.

Thanks for reading!

It might seem like a lot to do, and you might miss the good 'ol days where dogs were just punished for wrongdoings or reinforced for what we liked (don't worry, reinforcement is still a thing and our needs are still important). But we choose to have dogs in our homes, and therefore we choose to take care of them - not just their physical wellbeing, but their emotional health, too.

By taking attachment theory into account when we choose how to address behavior, we make a quantum shift in the quality of life for our dogs. When we do that, everybody wins.

P.S. If you want a some practical take-home tips you can use right now, here you go:

  • When you first see your dog in the morning, coming home, walking into a room, etc., do a slow stretch together, sort of like downward dog. They'll start to copy you (and you, them). See video below.
  • Make soft eye contact when your dog seeks your attention (blink and look away as needed - it's not a staring contest). If it seems like your dog would want contact, invite your dog over for a scritch and use the 5-second rule to make sure they're still enjoying it and that you've got the right spots. See video below.
  • Give your dog a chance to actively opt in to activities, particularly if they involve intruding on their body or safe space. I have a whole webinar on consent in the Academy.
  • Your needs and wishes matter, too. Just find ways to communicate boundaries that are non-violent and that let your dog know they're still loved. What can they do that works for both of you? If you need more specifics, just ask me for help and I'll point you to the right resource.

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SIDE NOTES

For Self-Care enthusiasts: If you love this sort of thing, check out my How to Human class. It's a blend of human care and dog training. It's available on a sliding scale, even free if that's what you need. I also really love the book The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find–and Keep– Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller.

For Buddhists concerned about attachment: In case it's not clear, secure attachment is a good thing. I was confused about this for a while, but what attachment theory calls 'secure attachment' isn't the sort of attachment that Buddhism warns us against, which is a clinging non-acceptance. That's more like what researchers would call anxious attachment.

For Science Lovers: There are so many open questions here. I'd love to see more in the comments. I'll also update and add more questions here as I think of them.

First and foremost, do dogs have attachment styles? (There is data to that effect, but we need more) Are they different with dogs than humans? What does secure attachment to humans look like in dogs? What's the best way to alter an attachment style to be more secure? Is that actually what we want, or do humans prefer anxious attachment in their dogs? What's the link between dog aggression / separation anxiety and canine attachment styles (there are a few studies but we need more, looking at the dogs styles)? What's the link between punishment and canine attachment styles (in humans, physical punishment leads to less security, more aggression, and other negative outcomes)? What effect, if any, is there on the human-to-dog attachment being more like a parent than a peer or child (for example is it unhealthy to dog or human if the human is attached to the dog as if the dog were the caregiver)? How does age of removal from the mother affect attachment style, taking attachment style of the mother and primary human caregiver (breeder) into account? What are the benefits to human attachment style when being mindful of S.A.F.E. for interactions with dogs?

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4 thoughts on “Can We Make Dog Training S.A.F.E.? Secure Attachment Family Education”

  1. That’s an excellent point, Andrea. Accepted caregiving behavior varies widely by culture. That said, the cross-cultural data still supports the existence of attachment styles and the associated resilience, but that one must also take culture into account in terms of looking at behaviors that promote secure attachment, what secure attachment might look like in terms of behavior, and what are considered virtues in that culture. For example, in terms of strategies, co-sleeping isn’t done much in Western cultures, but it’s considered neglect in much of the rest of the world. Responsiveness during sleep time is a huge factor in promoting secure attachment.

    Here’s another article I recommend, which is a small study from different cultural groups in South Africa. https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/children-australia/article/influence-of-culture-on-maternal-attachment-behaviours-a-south-african-case-study/186CCBCAC2B33F501FF1F31A8D2D1E6A

    Here’s a few snippets from that:

    “Variations in culture-based conceptions of good parenting and of the ideal child showed that the caregiving behaviours described in attachment theory and attachment literature were not relevant to all the cultural groups in this study. Consideration of variations in cultural models of virtue and the influence thereof on caregiving practices can offer a greater understanding of attachment and maternal attachment behaviours in different sociocultural contexts, without seeing differences as inferior.”

    AND YET…

    “Caregiving behaviours such as not responding to a crying infant and physical forms of punishment, as described by participants in our study, support the notion expressed by some participants from the professional and expert sample groups that South African parents need to be educated on the importance of attachment and on behaviours that would support secure attachment. Unlike some caregiver behaviours, such as mothers not engaging in mother–infant play, certain caregiver responses mentioned in this study hold the possibility of harm to the infant. Not responding to a crying infant is seen as a stressful experience for infants, which could harm brain development. Gerhardt (Reference Gerhardt2004, pp. 65–66) warns that ‘[s]tress in infancy – such as consistently being ignored when you cry – is particularly hazardous because high levels of cortisol in the early months of life … might be toxic to the developing brain over time’. Evidence that the attachment relationship plays a critical role in brain development (Booth & Lindaman, Reference Booth, Lindaman, Booth and Jernberg2010; Levy & Orlans, Reference Levy and Orlans2014; Schore, Reference Schore2015) demands attention to harmful caregiver responses. Physical punishment of infants can be regarded as frightening caregiver behaviour. Frightening behaviours by caregivers are seen as resulting in disorganised attachment; a type of insecure attachment that is linked to high-risk groups and the development of psychopathology in childhood and early adulthood (Bick & Dozier, Reference Bick and Dozier2013; Holmes & Slade, Reference Holmes and Slade2018; Keller, Reference Keller2013).”

  2. As a developmental psychologist, professor of family relations and human development, and canine behaviour consultant, I love seeing developmental science start to inform mainstream training. But I think it’s also important to recognize that attachment theory isn’t without controversy. In particular, it’s cross-cultural applications have been questioned. We need to be careful about making “universal” claims with these theories when applying them to human-human relationships and perhaps even more so when we consider cross-species relationships. Safety, security and connection—YES! But the language of “attachment” should be carefully considered. For more please see Keller’s work on this— https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1720325115

  3. Absolutely fascinating “stuff” here, Grisha! Thank you for writing about it! While I can no longer observe my beloved Ducky’s body language to be sure she feels/felt a secure attachment to me, I believe that for the most part she did (in spite of my many faults and errors in judgment). She knew instinctively when I needed her, at times before I even knew myself. I look back now and wish I’d been better at “reading” her needs. But I know that in spite of my mistakes, we still had a soul connection that would and does transcend time, space, and physical closeness. I desperately miss being able to stroke her fur, give her a bedtime kiss, and see her sweet, happy-you’re-home full-body wiggle. Yet, I know she is with me all the time. She was always secure enough in our relationship to be comfortable alone at home, whether closed in her crate or with full access to the main part of the house. I hope that I have learned enough from my mistakes with her and Bogie to be able to make our next dog feel as secure as Ducky did.

  4. I love this! Lots to think about and reflect on in my own attachments to my family, 2 and 4 legged.

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